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Good fortune this August was mine
This is a poodle health update, and let me begin at the end and say, “it’s all good.” As longtime readers will know, the month of August has always been somewhat of a speedbump on my life’s journey, dating all the way back to when I was 8 and was run over by a car…
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Pablo
It’s hard to put into words what it was like living in the shadow cast by AIDS in the 90s. One of my exes (I have several – in my heyday, I was what you might call a serial monogamist) gave HIV the name Pablo, because we could not comprehend nor relate to an unseen…
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Emotional Incontinence
When Queen Elizabeth II of the United Kingdom died in 2022, it was more than a notable death, like that of a celebrity, politician, someone associated with a bestselling book, a certain business or product, or some other position of prominence within society. She was a head of state, yes, but her reign of 70…
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Scanxiety
And the word of the day is scanxiety. It’s a neologism, but what it describes is all too familiar. Back in the 90s, before I tested positive for HIV, I had something similar, though it didn’t have a name. My gay thoughtful readers will know what I’m talking about. Every six months, you’d go to…
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The In-between
When I was 15, a teacher whose name I’m struggling to remember gave us an essay assignment: in 500 words, describe your life at 35. I had a very clear idea of where I would be and what I would be doing. I had gotten my Master’s degree in English from UCLA, had returned to…
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Brain Surgery
A man walks into a party. Guests are milling around. There is a low hum from the combined conversations of the partygoers, and over it can be heard some faint music. I think it is “Songbird” by Kenny G. Yah, it is. I’d know that song anywhere. Remember 1987? You couldn’t get away from it. …
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No World AIDS Day in the US
There was a time, when to hear the words “your test results came back positive for HIV” meant “you are going to die – soon.” In the western world, those days are part of the history of the AIDS pandemic, a history so recent that many of us alive today living with HIV can recall…
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Breakthrough
There are two fronts in the global fright against HIV and AIDS. Obviously, treating those infected is one. But equally important is preventing new infections. Since the early part of the last decade we have had the “preventative” drug regimen known as PrEP or “pre-exposure prophylaxis.” PrEP refers to medication used by an HIV-negative person…
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Today is my annHIVersary
To tell you this story, I first must introduce you to Paul and Martin. For much of the 90s, Paul was my wingman. Along with Martin, we were the “three amigos” of the LA gay scene. The three of us met in the seminary as undergraduates when we were all Conventual Franciscans studying philosophy. Paul…
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IMINUBU
I have wanted to write a tribute to Ken for some time, and as we celebrate Disability Pride Month this July, now seemed like the right time. Longtime readers of my blog will recognize the name from my coming out story or from my retelling of when and how I first heard about HIV/AIDS. I…
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